“I used to drink,” writes John Bradshaw,”to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed.” So often it is shame that lies under our unhealthy ways of coping with emotions and behaviours and yet it is frequently neglected. It is shame that can motivate all kinds of addictions, codependency, and a drive to superachieve.. This book is a core text at many specialist addiction clinics and can help you to identify your personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these deeply rooted causes and wounds, eventually freeing you from some of the shame that binds you and keeps you stuck in past failures.