Author: chekkietherapy

It is only once you can accept yourself for who you are currently, that you can change:

”The curious paradox is that when I accept myself as I am, then I change” (Carl Rogers, 1990, p19)

”Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there” (Jalal ad-Din Rumi)

Rather than seeing what you ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t’ do, what actions are ‘good’ and ‘bad’ and holding onto expectations of yourself, others and situations so tightly that you frequently feel frustrated or disappointed, acceptance is the essential thing to strive for.

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”

“True, I knew the glory of friendship (in common studies, in the cordial atmosphere of home or countryside). But then came the moments of strangeness, as if human beings lived in different worlds. Steadily the consciousness of loneliness grew upon me in my youth, yet nothing seemed more pernicious to me than loneliness, especially the loneliness in the midst of social intercourse that deceives itself in a multitude of friendships” (Jaspers, On My Philosophy, p146).

There is something particularly difficult about feeling alone, despite being surrounded by others and friends; to not fully be seen or understood can be a very difficult position to bear.

Jamie Marich’s Ted Talk on Trauma:

Podcast on ‘Giving People a Voice’ with Christiane Sanderson

Podcasts on various forms of Trauma:

Christiane Sanderson on Trauma and Sexual Abuse